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Time to do it, Resign

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The only thing that sucks, I have to tell so many people.  I can’t count the number of people I have to tell.  There are 4 core people I have to tell and then probably 30 that will approach me anyway.  Fun, Fun, fun.  I am expecting this, so I am prepared. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi, Galtor, Being prepared to deal with what people will ask is good strategy already. Though you truly don’t owe people a lot of your personal feelings and information about making a job change. Best wishes. smiles, Elise

The only thing that sucks, I have to tell so many people.  I can’t count the number of people I have to tell.  There are 4 core people I have to tell and then probably 30 that will approach me anyway.  Fun, Fun, fun.  I am expecting this, so I am prepared. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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You are not "The Job", and the job is not you. You are "You". Be you, quit. You can only benefit. LJ

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi, Galtor, Being prepared to deal with what people will ask is good strategy already. Though you truly don’t owe people a lot of your personal feelings and information about making a job change. Best wishes. smiles, Elise The only thing that sucks, I have to tell so many people.  I can’t count the number of people I have to tell.  There are 4 core people I have to tell and then probably 30 that will approach me anyway.  Fun, Fun, fun.  I am expecting this, so I am prepared. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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<Gently snipped :: I have been there several years, so I ::am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have ::something setup already?  No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on ::faith.  My question, anybody been through this?  I look at this way, ::one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a ::model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job ::can’t be worse than that. Dear Galtor, I commend you for knowing that it is time to move on. So many people stay stuck at a job they don`t like and/or is causing a lot of stress for them. I have no doubt you will be able to find another job. Just be open minded and willing to do most anything and you`ll find that many doors will open for you. My husband`s situation is a bit different that yours. He was laid off two years ago due to downsizing. He was fed up with white-collared jobs that caused lots of anxiety with no job security. He decided to leave his field and try something different. He is now a pizza maker/cook at thriving pizzeria/restaurant. Very little stress, more job security than he ever had anywhere else and the most important thing, he likes what he is doing. Good luck to you in your search for something more rewarding :) Jackie ~*~I am a person of many moods…and all of them want some chocolate~*~ — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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The only thing that sucks, I have to tell so many people.

Tell them "it’s a secret" why you’re changing jobs. You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Chip — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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The only thing that sucks, I have to tell so many people.  I can’t count the number of people I have to tell.  There are 4 core people I have to tell and then probably 30 that will approach me anyway.  Fun, Fun, fun.  I am expecting this, so I am prepared.

When I closed my business I had to tell at least 100 people.  I simply told them that I was burnt out and needed to do something different. And that doesn’t include the customers that will be calling my old phone number for many years to come. The last time I moved they called my old number for over 10 years! Sometimes the woman who got my old number would give them my number, and sometimes she would yell and hang up on them! :-)  I heard all kinds of stories when they did get in touch with me. Tono — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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This is an honest to god true story.  This has all happened within the last 3-4 hours.  A testament to my strange and interesting life.   I called in sick for the last couple of days to think things over. Today, I have been basically reading NGs and surfing.  I woke up around 1-2pm.   Basically, I am thinking about saving money and sending in my resignation letter.  It is now around 6:30pm.  I better eat some food and my daily Starbucks, might as well.   What could happen in a 20 minute timespan.  Remember I am already an  anxious person.  So, I get my food, at a fastfood place.   A guy pulls up, he is like "Hey, I have something you need to check out".  First thought, "No, thanks".  He is pretty aggresive about it, "I have a great deal on X, you have to check this out".  I had two thoughts, "Drive off" or "I will check this out so he will leave me alone."  The second decision proved to be the worst and happened to be the decision I made.  So I stop my car. "I am thinking, not today, not today."  I get out and he is like, "I have a great deal on this Thing(for now we will call it a thing).  "I am like, I am not interested".   He goes into his story, about how they have too many orders, this and that.  The order didnt go through, he can give a great deal, X, Y, Z.  I am basically just waiting for him to stop so I can get in my car and drive off.  Then, it gets weird. "How much can you give me right now?" Nothing. "Come on man, I will give you a sweet deal" Up to this point, he seems semi legit(at least at the time), I don’t know about his story.  But at least there was a logo on the van. "How much can you give me?"  I am go into the story about I am not ready to purchase anything right now, I will be looking for a job soon, blah, blah. Then he is like $400. I say to him, "Seriously, I have to get out of here."  He is starting to get mad, he starts yelling at me, "$300 dollars".  I am thinking, forget it, let me get out of here before I get shot, "Ok, $200".   The whole of mood of the conversation is my fear and these guys aggresive salesman attitude, very scary. The guy wants to shake my hand on the deal.  I just stand there.  He starts to grab my hand, so I will shake.  I just give up and shake, fine.  I just want this little adventure to end.  He is a big guy and pretty aggresive, and I notice that he is pointing to his friend up front. "Ok, how much cash do you have on you?" I don’t have anything "Let’s go to the ATM."  He picks this thing up and is about to throw it in my trunk.  I go ahead an open my trunk. At this point, I just want to get this over with.  I am just going along with the guy so I can get this saga over with. I get in my car.  I am thinking I will just go to the ATM and get this over with.  He is waiting to get in the car with me, while his friend drives the other car.  At this point, I am freaking out.  "Well on top of all the stress of changing my job, I am going to get killed too, great.".  So, he gets in the car(remember I could have just taken off), and we drive to the ATM.  He is giving me the directions to the ATM, "Just drive the next couple of blocks". I am thinking, "What should I do? I can’t give this guy my money."  We get to the ATM, with his other guy following behind me.  Of course, he walks up with me.  I wanted to say give me some space, but I just want to get this over with.  I am freaking out, hope he doesn’t just hit me over the head and takes all my money.  I give the 200 and he gets in his car.   I was actually looking for the "license plate" but he backed the car out and he was waiting for me to take off first. All that to say, I didn’t get hurt in the ordeal.  I easily could have.  These guys were way bigger.  I lost more money.  Now, I have to deal with going to the authorities while thinking about all this other stuff.  We live in a strange world.  And I said to myself.  I will just make one trip to get some food. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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X-NoArchive: yes Well, it is time to do it.  I need to walk away from my current job.  I haven’t been very effective and I know I can find something better. There is a lot of anxiety that will come with this, but I would much rather face new anxiety as opposed to dealing with the real stresses at my current spot.  I have been thinking about it off and on for a year now but I think now is the time.  Even though I have been thinking, I haven’t planned the financial part of it.  But, with my parents support, I know I will make it.  I have been there several years, so I am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have something setup already?

Oh no no no no no no no no. Man, I am all for resigning from a job that makes your life miserable. Don’t even look back Everybody always asks me that too, "Do you have another job?" WTF?????? Is that all they can think of is the next job? The next potentially terrible situation? No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on faith.  

And I bet your doing this will come back to reward you BIG TIME!!!!!! My question, anybody been through this?

Definately. Most positively. I look at this way, one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job can’t be worse than that.

You just relax and see what happens. Good for you. Love, Suzanne — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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OH and my mother went through this a few years ago. She was a county case worker – a job that sucked big time. She found it very hard to let go of the job. I supported her and told her to get the fuck out!!! Oh and I do not believe in the idea that you MUST have another job lined up before you quit the one you have. Sometimes people forget that not everyone is in the same finanical situation as everybody else. Sometimes people CAN swing it for a while without an income coming in via savings or whatever. If you are more comfortable having another job lined up then that’s ok too but don’t think because the guy down the street has that philosophy that means you have to. For one thing, when you are working full time, how the heck are you supposed to be able to find the time to find the next job and the right job? I do not believe that all employers think more highly of a person because they are currently employed. I got the job I have now and I wasn’t employed. The last job I had I got and wasn’t employed. And the one before that I wasn’t employed either. My point is this: If you need it, take a small vacation, sit around, watch TV , read some good books, reflect on things, whatever. Do some healthy things. Take a break!!! If you don’t want to, then don’t. No biggie either. Hope this helps. Love, Suzanne — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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best of luck. It sure wouldn’t hurt to try to line up another job beforehand. Trust your own judgment.  I’m sure all will work out o.k. -z-

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Well, it is time to do it.  I need to walk away from my current job.  I haven’t been very effective and I know I can find something better. There is a lot of anxiety that will come with this, but I would much rather face new anxiety as opposed to dealing with the real stresses at my current spot.  I have been thinking about it off and on for a year now but I think now is the time.  Even though I have been thinking, I haven’t planned the financial part of it.  But, with my parents support, I know I will make it.  I have been there several years, so I am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have something setup already?  No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on faith.  My question, anybody been through this?  I look at this way, one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job can’t be worse than that. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Well, it is time to do it.  I need to walk away from my current job.  I haven’t been very effective and I know I can find something better. There is a lot of anxiety that will come with this, but I would much rather face new anxiety as opposed to dealing with the real stresses at my current spot.  I have been thinking about it off and on for a year now but I think now is the time.  Even though I have been thinking, I haven’t planned the financial part of it.  But, with my parents support, I know I will make it.  I have been there several years, so I am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have something setup already?  No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on faith.  My question, anybody been through this?  I look at this way, one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job can’t be worse than that.

I walked away from a career that wasn’t the right fit back in 1999. Later that year I took the risk of a lifetime and started a business that is my passion.  Not once have I regreted turning away from the demands, deadlines, and bureacratic stresses of my prior career path. Had I stuck with it I’d either be getting ready to take the bar exam or running for county commisioner.  <shudder  I know for a fact that many thought what I chose to do was a big mistake, in the short term it may have been but in the long term it wasn’t. I came into the antiques trade from a background in real estate law. Among my peers I count former attorneys, carpenters, used car salesmen, doctors, teachers, military personel, IT/IS, editors, mostly people who got fed up with things they couldn’t control that caused undue stress in   the first career path and opted for something else that they were interested in that doesn’t bring about the quanity of negitive stressors. I used to hate getting up and going to work every morning, these days I only hate it when it’s getting up in the middle of the night to drive to a show. FWIW, I’ve a regular part time gig as well.  Only because I need to get out of the house for my emotional well being, and to keep myself from slipping back to my old agorophobic ways. Jess — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Well, it is time to do it.  I need to walk away from my current job.  I haven’t been very effective and I know I can find something better. There is a lot of anxiety that will come with this, but I would much rather face new anxiety as opposed to dealing with the real stresses at my current spot.  I have been thinking about it off and on for a year now but I think now is the time.  Even though I have been thinking, I haven’t planned the financial part of it.  But, with my parents support, I know I will make it.  I have been there several years, so I am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have something setup already?  No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on faith.  My question, anybody been through this?  I look at this way, one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job can’t be worse than that. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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Hi, Galtor, There not a thing wrong in trusting your instinct.  If you feel you have more to gain by securing new employment, then go for it!!!  Best wishes and please keep us updated… smiles, Elise

– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Well, it is time to do it.  I need to walk away from my current job.  I haven’t been very effective and I know I can find something better. There is a lot of anxiety that will come with this, but I would much rather face new anxiety as opposed to dealing with the real stresses at my current spot.  I have been thinking about it off and on for a year now but I think now is the time.  Even though I have been thinking, I haven’t planned the financial part of it.  But, with my parents support, I know I will make it.  I have been there several years, so I am not just walking away.  I know you are all thinking, "Do you have something setup already?  No, I don’t".  That is ok, I am acting on faith.  My question, anybody been through this?  I look at this way, one cousin of mine went to prison for several years, one relative was a model then turned to the navy.  My situation of finding a better job can’t be worse than that. — The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

– The charter is available at: http://readystump.algebra.com/~asapm

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