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: when i am around other people who are conversing, sometimes i just : leave. it’s one of the few things like running or walking fast in the : office that i am now figuring out is abnormal and can recognize whilst : under rit.  anyways, the conversation is already at apoint where i

Lucky you!  You CAN walk away…I usually try to put my opinion in three or four conversations at once, cuz I can’t seem to block any of them out, even when they are people I don’t know…and OF COURSE I have an opinion on EVERYTHING!

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I have managed to control the process, but I would like to get the

original ease of doing it, so I can download any accent I want. (I would like to get the whole British Empire collection.) I guess the WILLINGNESS to do accents to please people, as I do, is a

self-esteem problem. In your case, you’re probably self-assured enough to want to use your original personality and native accent, whereas I’d rather be "in character". I very often "fall into" my favourite accent, the Aussie when sober. A coworker has a brother who does Arnold Schwartzenegger’s accent, but doesn’t "fall into it" quite like I do.

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – : So what’s your normal accent?  What’s the usefulness of another one? I’m a Chicagoan, and my originally installed accent is Chicagoan, but with a bad TH sound. The usefulness of an accent is becuse it’s good for starting conversations. It’s useful becuse it gets people curious about where you’re from. Since I don’t have too many interests, it’s hard for me to generate small talk, and an accent overcomes that problem better than anything else I ever found. I admit, for many of us ADders, an accent talent is an annoying habit, but for me, it’s a lifesaver. I was never able to socialise too well as my real self, including my original accent. If I’m ever going to overcome my self esteem problems, and an accent is useful, so be it. Nixon said it best: You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time. That’s the attitude I have about my accents. It’s sad, but I get better mileage acting rather than being my real self. Some people are forced to do an act. — Ned Kelly Lives!!!!!!    http://www.suburbia.net/~nedkelly/Seppo_Navy.html         The Navy: It’s Not Just A Job….. It’s $cientology Lite!            Yes, there is hope at the bottom of a booze bottle.

Hey Ned, This is just a thought I had.  Have you ever considered stand-up comedy? Alot of comics have ADHD.  They are also excellent at impersonating people.  The adrenaline rush of performing in front of an audience could be helpful too.  And you know alot of these people go on to be very successful actors. Deb

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greetings, i’m a newbie here and was wondering about what i thought was rudeness. when i am around other people who are conversing, sometimes i just leave. it’s one of the few things like running or walking fast in the office that i am now figuring out is abnormal and can recognize whilst under rit.  anyways, the conversation is already at apoint where i have no interest or contributions and i don’t mean to be rude, but iam gone.  this does not go over well at myoffice since i am a peon there. and sometimes i find myself running around the office, although the work that i do is not any more or less important than anyone else there.  anone else notice that yellow-stickies are the work ofthe devil?  anyway, take care,  laura

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writes: greetings, i’m a newbie here and was wondering about what i thought was rudeness. when i am around other people who are conversing, sometimes i just leave…  anyways, the conversation is already at apoint where i have no interest or contributions and i don’t mean to be rude, but iam gone.  

Prior to meds I OFTEN used to feel that way around certain (read:BORING) people.   Either that or there was something I just HAD to do. Sounds like an IMPULSIVITY problem to me.  Sometimes we just HAVE to act on what are brains are telling us. Fortunately, this impulsivity symptom can be greatly  eased with meds. self-employed! (Hmmmm, wonder why?). But, boy…. get me around those family members for the holidays…..

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Maybe you’re being too self-conscious and are just being sensible.   You might tactfully fake being interested in conversations you are not, and then find a reason to leave.  Why punish yourself with conversation that has no meaning for you?  Do other people always remain in conversations you are involved in, or do they find a reason to move along if they’re not interested? If you walk fast in the office, why should that offend anyone?   Maybe you’ll get more work done.  Maybe the boss will appreciate the idea that you are a driver, and would reward you with a raise or promotion later. Gene Douglas

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: BTW Watch out for those accents — if you pick up a local twang, people : will think you know what’s going on and ask for your help/advice. I know. This could be a problem if I ever go to Australia on holiday. I suspect what would happen is that people will ask me how long I’ve been in "The States". They might be expecting an answer like "a few years", not a lifetime! Similar with the British, depending on my exact version. — Ned Kelly Lives!!!!!!    http://www.suburbia.net/~nedkelly/Seppo_Navy.html         The Navy: It’s Not Just A Job….. It’s $cientology Lite!            Yes, there is hope at the bottom of a booze bottle.

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But, boy…. get me around those family members for the holidays…..

I have a problem with topics that are interesting to a lot of males.  I have no interest in football at all, and see no problem in politely participating for a few moments, and then excusing myself.  Generally, nobody even notices my going. In West Texas, it was horrible.  The only topics there are football, bets lost on football, the women I’ve been with, how I lay the law down for my wife, the guys I’ve whipped (nobody in West Texas ever lost a fight.  They must fight with Coloradans.)   trucks, and cows.  I used to sit silently, hoping the topic would change. Of course, if women want to talk about cooking or that annoying neighbor they can’t stand, or their operation, I can find a quick excuse to leave the area there, too. There is a good book called, When I Say No, I Feel Guilty.  I recommend it.  And in the meantime, I seek out company, in my church and in my profession, whose conversation I enjoy.  It isn’t just me, because if it were, there wouldn’t be ANY conversation that would attract me. Gene Douglas

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Nixon said it best: You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time. (snip)

Excuse me, but didn’t Abraham Lincoln say that??? don’t ask me why I think that, but I’ve always thought that’s who said that phrase… by the way, I do accents, too, and I have to actively,constantly strive not to pick up my friends mannerisms…I have to work at keeping my own personality.  I think you had a post awhile back which stated you did this…is it an ADHD/ADD thing or is it an early-childhood self-esteem thing (a byproduct of ADHD/ADD)?  just wondering aloud with the keyboard doing the talking… – susie

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Nixon said it best: You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time. (snip) Excuse me, but didn’t Abraham Lincoln say that??? don’t ask me why I think that, but I’ve always thought that’s who said that phrase…

I thought it was Yogi Berra.

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by the way, I do accents, too, and I have to actively,constantly strive not to pick up my friends mannerisms…I have to work at keeping my own personality.  I think you had a post awhile back which stated you did this…is it an ADHD/ADD thing or is it an early-childhood self-esteem thing (a byproduct of ADHD/ADD)?  just wondering aloud with the keyboard doing the talking… – susie

We had some friends visite us in Ma. from Mo.  After the week someone asked where I was from.  Thing is I never noticed I was picking up their accent. Leo

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Nixon said it best: You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time. (snip) Excuse me, but didn’t Abraham Lincoln say that??? don’t ask me why I think that, but I’ve always thought that’s who said that phrase… by the way, I do accents, too, and I have to actively,constantly strive not to pick up my friends mannerisms…I have to work at keeping my own personality.  I think you had a post awhile back which stated you did this…is it an ADHD/ADD thing or is it an early-childhood self-esteem thing (a byproduct of ADHD/ADD)?  just wondering aloud with the keyboard doing the talking… – susie

I believe Nixon said "you can FOOL all of the people some of the time . . ." BTW Watch out for those accents — if you pick up a local twang, people will think you know what’s going on and ask for your help/advice. — Terry Gray             |  Moral issues never change, Opus Communications    |  Only social ones. Phone/FAX:             |         — Spider Robinson, (604) 820-2513         |          The Time-Traveller

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: by the way, I do accents, too, and I have to actively,constantly strive : not to pick up my friends mannerisms…I have to work at keeping my own : personality.  I think you had a post awhile back which stated you did : this…is it an ADHD/ADD thing or is it an early-childhood self-esteem : thing (a byproduct of ADHD/ADD)?  just wondering aloud with the keyboard : doing the talking… I have been known to spontaneously download someone’s accent on the fly. If someone has an accent similar to one of my own, I may match mine up to the other person’s. Recently, I met up with a Brit I met before, who remembered my Aussie accent. I started my British accent and "paralleled" it to his! I have managed to control the process, but I would like to get the original ease of doing it, so I can download any accent I want. (I would like to get the whole British Empire collection.) I guess the WILLINGNESS to do accents to please people, as I do, is a self-esteem problem. In your case, you’re probably self-assured enough to want to use your original personality and native accent, whereas I’d rather be "in character". I very often "fall into" my favourite accent, the Aussie when sober. A coworker has a brother who does Arnold Schwartzenegger’s accent, but doesn’t "fall into it" quite like I do. — Ned Kelly Lives!!!!!!    http://www.suburbia.net/~nedkelly/Seppo_Navy.html         The Navy: It’s Not Just A Job….. It’s $cientology Lite!            Yes, there is hope at the bottom of a booze bottle.

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: when i am around other people who are conversing, sometimes i just : leave. it’s one of the few things like running or walking fast in the : office that i am now figuring out is abnormal and can recognize whilst : under rit.  anyways, the conversation is already at apoint where i I don’t know, but I probably walk faster than you. I have clocked myself at 5 MPH at full speed. I have at least one coworker say I have a "motor in my ass". As far as conversing, I drop out too if it’s not one-on-one. I can carry on a 3-way conversation if I’m drinking and running my accent. (Maybe it’s a small amount of adrenaline.) I am beta testing a British accent for socialising while sober. I normally use an Australian accent when I drink, but I do a different voice for it. The British accent is much easier to do sober. :) — Ned Kelly Lives!!!!!!    http://www.suburbia.net/~nedkelly/Seppo_Navy.html         The Navy: It’s Not Just A Job….. It’s $cientology Lite!            Yes, there is hope at the bottom of a booze bottle.

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I don’t know, but I probably walk faster than you. I have clocked myself

at 5 MPH at full speed. I have at least one coworker say I have a "motor in my ass". As far as conversing, I drop out too if it’s not one-on-one. I can carry on a 3-way conversation if I’m drinking and running my

accent. (Maybe it’s a small amount of adrenaline.) I am beta testing a British accent for socialising while sober. I normally use an Australian accent when I drink, but I do a different voice for it. The British accent is much easier to do sober. :)

*** So what’s your normal accent?  What’s the usefulness of another one? Actually, I have a problem in conversations if I don’t have a chance to respond from moment to moment.  I’ve always had a horrible time in staff meetings.  Generally, if people are talking about something that doesn’t pertain to me, I drift out, and hope to come back when they say something "relevant."  Sometimes if I’m asked a question, I don’t know what they’ve been talking about, and don’t want to say so.  So I just hope to avoid situations where there are staff meetings, or where someone is likely to be long winded without expecting a reply from time to time. Gene Douglas "We would spend less time worrying about what people think of us, if we realized how seldom they do."  –Oscar Wilde

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: So what’s your normal accent?  What’s the usefulness of another one? I’m a Chicagoan, and my originally installed accent is Chicagoan, but with a bad TH sound. The usefulness of an accent is becuse it’s good for starting conversations. It’s useful becuse it gets people curious about where you’re from. Since I don’t have too many interests, it’s hard for me to generate small talk, and an accent overcomes that problem better than anything else I ever found. I admit, for many of us ADders, an accent talent is an annoying habit, but for me, it’s a lifesaver. I was never able to socialise too well as my real self, including my original accent. If I’m ever going to overcome my self esteem problems, and an accent is useful, so be it. Nixon said it best: You can please some of the people all of the time, all of the people some of the time, but not all of the people all of the time. That’s the attitude I have about my accents. It’s sad, but I get better mileage acting rather than being my real self. Some people are forced to do an act. — Ned Kelly Lives!!!!!!    http://www.suburbia.net/~nedkelly/Seppo_Navy.html         The Navy: It’s Not Just A Job….. It’s $cientology Lite!            Yes, there is hope at the bottom of a booze bottle.

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greetings, i’m a newbie here and was wondering about what i thought was rudeness. when i am around other people who are conversing, sometimes i just leave. it’s one of the few things like running or walking fast in the office that i am now figuring out is abnormal and can recognize whilst under rit.  anyways, the conversation is already at apoint where i have no interest or contributions and i don’t mean to be rude, but iam gone.  this does not go over well at myoffice since i am a peon there. and sometimes i find myself running around the office, although the work that i do is not any more or less important than anyone else there.  anone else notice that yellow-stickies are the work ofthe devil?  anyway, take care,  laura

Don’t worry about walking too fast. It can go either way. I was fired from a job at a hospital one time and in the *termination interview* the man told me he Knew it would end this way before he hired me. Why? Because I didn’t walk fast enough in hall as we went to his office for my job interview. And I thought I was being smart by avoiding a collision with someone on a possibly important trip. I started to ask him why he hired me then, but as I came back to the conversation he was advising me to join the military. At the time I had friends dying there and I was trying to support my family. And normies think we are nuts! Allen

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