Yay! Got a phone number!
Hey man! Thats great! Maybe I can use you for inspiration!! Good luck!!!
OK, so last night I’m at an improvised acting workshop, and there’s and absolutely beautiful girl there who’s also really funny and interesting and all of that, and she’d been once before, and I hadn’t asked for her number, because I thought she’d be there the following week and she wasn’t (at least that’s the reason I told myself). And this week was the last week of the course. We’d done a scene early on in the workshop, about a couple celebrating their 10th anniversary by going to the ice rink they went to on their first date. So in the bar afterwards I’d put on a goofy "nerdish teenager" voice, and jokily said to her, "So, you wanna go ice skating?" – which made her laugh. (It was clear I was just goofing around, and not really asking her out.) In fact, I noticed she was laughing at quite a lot of things I said (things which were meant to be funny), which I thought was a good sign. So just as we were leaving, I said to her, "Can I give you a call, if I promise not to ask you to go ice skating?" (Good move – Marc would probably call this an anchor, anyway, it was something which I knew would probably make her laugh, so right there I’m making her feel good about me asking for her number. Right, Marc?) Anyway, she seemed really happy to give me her number, so I’m hopeful about this… Whatever the eventual outcome, anyway, I feel really good about two things in particular: 1) I did it really early (only the 2nd time I’d met her) – and you know what, it’s a hell of a lot easier doing it early (so long as you’ve at least chatted for a while, i.e., don’t ask for a number right off the bat). The longer you wait, the more difficult it seems to get. I know why this is, actually, it’s because it becomes this thing that you haven’t been able to bring yourself to do for so long, that it just seems more and more like you’ll never be able to bring yourself to do it. And every time you don’t do it, you reinforce that. So get it over and done with early, before you have a chance to get into this pattern! 2) I had no pretext for asking for her number – it was absolutely clear that the only reason I was asking was because I would like to call her. I even know people who *don’t* consider themselves at all shy, who still need a pretext before they’ll ask a girl for her number. And then agonise over not knowing whether she’s interested in them, or just in their pretext. So I’m really proud of this. So… all together now… YAY! (Further updates will follow as further developments develop.) Ollie
Yay! You should be really proud, well done. Gary Bee.
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Outrageous! Great! For exactly all the reasons you wrote! What if you start doing that sort of act/action to any gal at any opportunities? Before you (if you
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