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"Lisa" <Lisaster…@blerg.com> wrote in message <news:austpt$pjp$07$1@news.t-online.com>… > Hi Sonia. > Sounds like your dad is trying to support your brother choosing a direction > in life, any direction.

Thanks Lisa.  You simple short explanation is a nice one that makes me feel a little better.  You could be right. sonia

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William P <d…@email.me> wrote in message <news:BDnQ9.2814$VW5.548726@news20.bellglobal.com>… > I think just as the person with the bow can only guide the arrow, the > arrow can’t really guide the bow much, or something.  I think you smell > what I’m cooking here on this. > > ciao > Buon anno

hehe ya.  and the bow and the arrow are none of my business anyhow so i probably shouldn’t care and not let it get to me.  I love the K. Gibran reference of course :) buon anno!! sonia

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Well, first my dad and my brother are BOTH NFPs.  dad is an I bro is an E. Second, INFPs are my absolutely favorite personality type!!! So I’ve got no complaints with that. (I myself have no clue what i am except I know I am III.  I seem to test differently every time i take the online test) well, its not that i think my dad is fucking up his life by wanting to do non dad like things.  I think hes amazing and wonderful just because he is a little eccentric.   I like that he does what he wants, and does it a little different than other people, and he usually does it well.  He amazes me. The thing that bothers me is that i feel like my dad going out and buying expensive tools for my brother on a total whim is uncomfortable for me.  Im not totally sure why this is yet. and i wish it didnt bother me. I feel like money is wasted or something.  but i guess its only money.  but i feel like its more than that too.  like my brother should be picking out his own tools and creating his own career and stuff little by little.  but anyhow. I just want to be able to deal with my issue.  that is, not caring about theirs and feeling like they are making wrong decisions.  I mean, i look at is as though im acting wrongly by thinking they are acting wrongly or something. Im sorry pants that I can across as criticizing infps.  I really didn’t mean that. I know that i am the one uncomfortable and im looking to change me. not them.  Im just looking for new perspectives and understanding so i can be comfortble with decisions i may not agree with, expecially when it is none of my business. hm.  i hope i make sense.   sonia Mississi pee pee I Pnats <novels…@novelspam.com> wrote in message <news:qn641v0d3qan2com3c3dof781j606824qg@4ax.com>… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Your dad is an INFP? Or your brother?  I am not sure which person you are > concerned about? > Ok I had to read again you think you dad is fucking up his life by wanting to do > things that aren’t DadLike? > I am an INFP and I am 40 years old.  I am a free spirit.  I hace been badgered > by family to conform and I did for awhile to please their asses but I wasn’t > pleasing ME! > Think about it, would you rather have your Dad or brother do things that make > them happy even it you don’t like it?  Or do the things YOU think they should do > to please you and not necesarrily themselves? > It took years to realize that my family members who were doing all the > criticizing my actions really weren’t thinking about what was best for me but > rather thinking about what was best for them since what I was doing was making > THEM uncomfortable.  So from what you said, the things your Dad is doing makes > YOU uncomfortable. I say so what! > >I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that > >other shybees may experience. > >ciao > >sonia > Loev, > Ms Pants > PS many of us INFPs are rather eccentric

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- Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -mathstud…@earthlink.net (math student) wrote in message <news:e475f8a6.0212311157.11ef3ca1@posting.google.com>… > Hi.  I think I have a slightly impulsive parent and I’m not sure how > to deal with it or think about it.  I don’t look to change him at all > (I think he’s an amazing human being and he IS an adult free to chose > his lafe as he pleases) but sometimes I let what I consider bad > decisions get to me. > The latest example: > My brother is toying with the idea of becoming a mechanic. *toying* > The kid is 19 and spends most of his time with friends, sleeping, > watching TV, or playing on the internet.  Anyhow, I have a hard time > seeing him as taking much of anything seriously. > Anyhow, so what does my dad do?  Based on this whim of my brothers, he > buys a very expensive (IMO) tool set off ebay for him for christmas. > And its not like my dad is very weathy.  He is quite in debt with > businesses expenses.  Hm.  And looking at my brother, hes not really > the tool type. I dunno.  It seems strange.  I guess I feel like he > spoils him at his own expense and its doing noone any good.  or > something > I suppose another example is that he wants to buy a  motorcycle and > drive down to guatamala. > I guess he feels like its his life and he has the capabitity to do > this so why not.  I wish i could understand this mindset better and > feel better about it.  I sometimes get this "hes fucking up his life" > feeling.  I feel this way about my brother too sometimes.  ah > well…looking for insight and understanding > [for those curious hes an INFP.  ah yes.. the life of a daughter (and > sister) of an infp…) > I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that > other shybees may experience. > ciao > sonia

I get feelings like that sometimes regarding my mother and brother. Too much action made and money spent on whims which might not pan out.  I’m probably the least whim-oriented person in my family, but I’m certain my various personal issues are a key factor here, as I tend to worry about risks of any type, whether they stand to affect me or someone else.  It’s not even so much a matter of trusting other people to deal with the consequences of their actions(though in my case I don’t trust myself to be able to deal with the consequences of my actions) as it is a matter of always expecting the worst to occur. It’s hard to tell where the line between mere pessimism and legitimate concerns lies.

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Hi.  I think I have a slightly impulsive parent and I’m not sure how to deal with it or think about it.  I don’t look to change him at all (I think he’s an amazing human being and he IS an adult free to chose his lafe as he pleases) but sometimes I let what I consider bad decisions get to me. The latest example: My brother is toying with the idea of becoming a mechanic. *toying* The kid is 19 and spends most of his time with friends, sleeping, watching TV, or playing on the internet.  Anyhow, I have a hard time seeing him as taking much of anything seriously. Anyhow, so what does my dad do?  Based on this whim of my brothers, he buys a very expensive (IMO) tool set off ebay for him for christmas. And its not like my dad is very weathy.  He is quite in debt with businesses expenses.  Hm.  And looking at my brother, hes not really the tool type. I dunno.  It seems strange.  I guess I feel like he spoils him at his own expense and its doing noone any good.  or something I suppose another example is that he wants to buy a  motorcycle and drive down to guatamala. I guess he feels like its his life and he has the capabitity to do this so why not.  I wish i could understand this mindset better and feel better about it.  I sometimes get this "hes fucking up his life" feeling.  I feel this way about my brother too sometimes.  ah well…looking for insight and understanding [for those curious hes an INFP.  ah yes.. the life of a daughter (and sister) of an infp…) I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that other shybees may experience. ciao sonia

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"math student" <mathstud…@earthlink.net> wrote in message

news:e475f8a6.0212311157.11ef3ca1@posting.google.com… – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi.  I think I have a slightly impulsive parent and I’m not sure how > to deal with it or think about it.  I don’t look to change him at all > (I think he’s an amazing human being and he IS an adult free to chose > his lafe as he pleases) but sometimes I let what I consider bad > decisions get to me. > The latest example: > My brother is toying with the idea of becoming a mechanic. *toying* > The kid is 19 and spends most of his time with friends, sleeping, > watching TV, or playing on the internet.  Anyhow, I have a hard time > seeing him as taking much of anything seriously. > Anyhow, so what does my dad do?  Based on this whim of my brothers, he > buys a very expensive (IMO) tool set off ebay for him for christmas. > And its not like my dad is very weathy.  He is quite in debt with > businesses expenses.  Hm.  And looking at my brother, hes not really > the tool type. I dunno.  It seems strange.  I guess I feel like he > spoils him at his own expense and its doing noone any good.  or > something > I suppose another example is that he wants to buy a  motorcycle and > drive down to guatamala. > I guess he feels like its his life and he has the capabitity to do > this so why not.  I wish i could understand this mindset better and > feel better about it.  I sometimes get this "hes fucking up his life" > feeling.  I feel this way about my brother too sometimes.  ah > well…looking for insight and understanding > [for those curious hes an INFP.  ah yes.. the life of a daughter (and > sister) of an infp…) > I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that > other shybees may experience.

Hi Sonia. Sounds like your dad is trying to support your brother choosing a direction in life, any direction.

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mathstud…@earthlink.net (math student) wrote in news:e475f8a6.0212311157.11ef3ca1@posting.google.com: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text -> Hi.  I think I have a slightly impulsive parent and I’m not sure how > to deal with it or think about it.  I don’t look to change him at all > (I think he’s an amazing human being and he IS an adult free to chose > his lafe as he pleases) but sometimes I let what I consider bad > decisions get to me. > The latest example: > My brother is toying with the idea of becoming a mechanic. *toying* > The kid is 19 and spends most of his time with friends, sleeping, > watching TV, or playing on the internet.  Anyhow, I have a hard time > seeing him as taking much of anything seriously. > Anyhow, so what does my dad do?  Based on this whim of my brothers, he > buys a very expensive (IMO) tool set off ebay for him for christmas. > And its not like my dad is very weathy.  He is quite in debt with > businesses expenses.  Hm.  And looking at my brother, hes not really > the tool type. I dunno.  It seems strange.  I guess I feel like he > spoils him at his own expense and its doing noone any good.  or > something > I suppose another example is that he wants to buy a  motorcycle and > drive down to guatamala. > I guess he feels like its his life and he has the capabitity to do > this so why not.  I wish i could understand this mindset better and > feel better about it.  I sometimes get this "hes fucking up his life" > feeling.  I feel this way about my brother too sometimes.  ah > well…looking for insight and understanding > [for those curious hes an INFP.  ah yes.. the life of a daughter (and > sister) of an infp…) > I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that > other shybees may experience.

I think just as the person with the bow can only guide the arrow, the arrow can’t really guide the bow much, or something.  I think you smell what I’m cooking here on this. > ciao

Buon anno

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On 31 Dec 2002 11:57:19 -0800, mathstud…@earthlink.net (math student) wrote: – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text ->Hi.  I think I have a slightly impulsive parent and I’m not sure how >to deal with it or think about it.  I don’t look to change him at all >(I think he’s an amazing human being and he IS an adult free to chose >his lafe as he pleases) but sometimes I let what I consider bad >decisions get to me. >The latest example: >My brother is toying with the idea of becoming a mechanic. *toying* >The kid is 19 and spends most of his time with friends, sleeping, >watching TV, or playing on the internet.  Anyhow, I have a hard time >seeing him as taking much of anything seriously. >Anyhow, so what does my dad do?  Based on this whim of my brothers, he >buys a very expensive (IMO) tool set off ebay for him for christmas. >And its not like my dad is very weathy.  He is quite in debt with >businesses expenses.  Hm.  And looking at my brother, hes not really >the tool type. I dunno.  It seems strange.  I guess I feel like he >spoils him at his own expense and its doing noone any good.  or >something >I suppose another example is that he wants to buy a  motorcycle and >drive down to guatamala. >I guess he feels like its his life and he has the capabitity to do >this so why not.  I wish i could understand this mindset better and >feel better about it.  I sometimes get this "hes fucking up his life" >feeling.  I feel this way about my brother too sometimes.  ah >well…looking for insight and understanding >[for those curious hes an INFP.  ah yes.. the life of a daughter (and >sister) of an infp…)

Your dad is an INFP? Or your brother?  I am not sure which person you are concerned about? Ok I had to read again you think you dad is fucking up his life by wanting to do things that aren’t DadLike? I am an INFP and I am 40 years old.  I am a free spirit.  I hace been badgered by family to conform and I did for awhile to please their asses but I wasn’t pleasing ME! Think about it, would you rather have your Dad or brother do things that make them happy even it you don’t like it?  Or do the things YOU think they should do to please you and not necesarrily themselves? It took years to realize that my family members who were doing all the criticizing my actions really weren’t thinking about what was best for me but rather thinking about what was best for them since what I was doing was making THEM uncomfortable.  So from what you said, the things your Dad is doing makes YOU uncomfortable. I say so what! >I suppose this could be off topic but i figure its something that >other shybees may experience. >ciao >sonia

Loev, Ms Pants PS many of us INFPs are rather eccentric

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